we need to talk about self-love culture

The concept of “self-love” has been having a moment for what, now – a decade or so? We tout it as an excuse to buy expensive bath bombs and invest in silky lingerie. We call it a movement, a sudden change of thought. We hashtag it on our selfies, even when we don’t believe it.…

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rest in our reality

Today, it’s raining. The air outside our home smells like wood fire, cold temperatures, and wet leaves. There’s a goat screaming in the pasture; she’s hungry, as always, and she’d rather stand in the rain and tell us about it than curl up with her family in the shed we built for them. I’m about…

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4. learning when to listen

There is a space in which we create for ourselves an emotionless void, where nothing feels Simple OR Good. You’ll know it when you find yourself paralyzed at the keyboard with nothing to say, when all you’ve wanted to do all day is sit down and have this moment to speak. Pretty soon, the phone…

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2. letting go of the milestone mentality

You know how women used to stress about turning 30? And then 40? And then, suddenly, the temperature in the room changed, and everyone was like, “Just wait until you get out of your 20s. Things get so much better”? These are people who have let go of what I’m calling the Milestone Mentality. They…

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