FIRST: we already know things aren’t simple or good

If there’s any all-encompassing deep, dark truth that we’ve learned in 2020, it’s probably rooted in the fact that we have very little control over the big picture. We can do the best under the circumstances, but at the end of the day, bad things will sometimes happen, jealousies will take hold, and things will occasionally feel broken.

I’ve been feeling broken lately.

First, like my words aren’t right, like I can’t form a sentence or convert my thoughts into meaning.

Second, like my future is uncertain and I need to move on but I don’t know how or where.

And third, like life is so short. Things we care for are easily lost and sometimes never found.

I’ve lived a blessed life. I grew up with a very good family who got along and hung out together. I got good grades all throughout school, took the right AP classes and skipped Calculus because I didn’t like it (and even though someone told me I’d have to take it in college, I made it throughout 4 years without it). I’ve made ends meet with odd jobs that always seem to last for two years or so. I’ve found a home in the country, a pasture to raise goats, and a partner who supports me on the hardest days. In a way, it’s all felt simple. Even the hardest times have pointed me towards the next right thing.

But it’s when we find ourselves in the thick of the hard times that we find it most difficult to trudge through. Like many of you, I’m sure, it’s been hard for me to move through these last several months without feeling grim. I’m hot, I’m sweaty, I’m tired and stressed. I still hate my thighs, my tummy, the fullness of my face. I’m speechless. I’m angry. I’m inspired to a point of inaction. And I’m scared – as if I’m just waiting for one more bad thing to happen.

That’s not the way I want this year to be.

So over the last few months, I’ve been thinking a lot about what Simple + Good means to me. The messages that it should inspire, and the impact that it should make. It’s struck me that a life that is innately “Simple + Good” often feels nothing like those words imply, because learning to live with little, to live with passion, and to appreciate it for all it’s worth, takes a lot of deep work. I’ve come up with 5 core tenets that will continue to ground this platform as we move through this year and beyond. They are, in no particular order, knowing what matters to you, accepting your timeline, owning your interests and quirks, learning when (and how) to listen to them, and doing what needs to be done to pursue your unique path.

My hope is that each of these topics will relate to you and your individual journey in a way that benefits you and shapes the way you move through life. Of course, each of these subjects will be rooted in my own personal experience, but you’ll get the picture. And then, finally, we can all understand what I meant when I decided to change the name of this blog. 🤦‍♀️

We’re all feeling an extreme sense of loss right now. Some of us miss the ease of sitting at a bar with friends, while others are losing family members without the chance to say goodbye. Many of us are losing our income, our sense of purpose, the things that make us get up and get dressed in the morning. But for now, we still have ourselves. And we’ve got an ever-increasing amount of time to dive into that relationship.

I’m taking this pause to make sense of how life can resume within the seemingly trite contexts of “simple” and “good,” and over the next five posts, I’m going to do my best to share my sense with you, too.

Tune in next time to learn about Things that Matter….and with that, Things that Don’t. (get all the updates on future posts when you subscribe here or follow Simple + Good on WordPress at the bottom of this page).