thoughts on the day after an election

It’s not about not winning. And it’s not about not getting my way. The feelings of uneasiness I’m experiencing today are rooted in fear. Logically, I know that one man cannot run our entire country into the ground. But the millions who voted for him have a megaphone to voice their negative opinions to the world now, and that worries me. I won’t say that every Trump voter is this or that  – because they’re not. Every person has their own reason for voting the way they do, expressing their right to express their feelings, which is what a democracy is all about. And I want to respect those people the way that I, too, want to be respected for my vote. So however you voted yesterday, I still love you. And this post is not in any way meant to demean your opinions or put up walls where they don’t belong.

But when a man builds his presidential platform on insults rooted in racism, sexism and general distaste….that’s just not how I want our country to be represented. I know many people find fault with our current leader, but can’t we all agree that at least President Obama has an air of class and respect about him? Like him or not, you can’t deny that he’s a pleasant person to listen to. Trump, however, takes on everything with a loud, negative and abrasive tone. Most of the time, he’s just not nice. That alone was a justifiable reason for me not to give the man my vote.

I’m trying to find peace in the fact that, at the end of the day, our president elect can only accomplish what the people allow him to. It will all be a question of who he surrounds himself with (probably like-minded individuals) and how they choose to vote. And if Trump can tone it down, if he can truly peacefully reunite our now divided country and change his demeanor and carry himself in a respectful and accepting manner, then I will learn to respect him, too. But right now…for the first time ever….I don’t think I can.

Four years ago, at the re-election of President Obama, I was attacked by a distant family member for voicing a neutral opinion of acceptance. I refuse to go to the dark side and retaliate those actions and emotions towards those who voted for Mr. Trump. I will not be closed-minded or moody or huffing and puffing because my choice didn’t win. But I do feel the need today to express my thoughts.

If you voted for the victor, congratulations. I truly wish the best for our country and I sincerely hope it all works out.

And if you were #WithHer as I was, I feel your pain. I feel the same ache in the pit of my stomach. I feel the same fear. But all we can do now is stand behind the choices made by our fellow citizens and try to make this the best nation it can be.

Love your neighbors. Speak kind words. Think open thoughts. And maybe the next four years won’t be so bad. So long as we refuse to stoop down to a level of hatred and unacceptance, the good can remain. I sincerely hope that any progress we’ve experienced as a country won’t be erased. There are too many intelligent and loving people out there to let that happen. But apparently there are also a lot of like-minded people that will stand by Trump and do their best to aid in the creation of backwards methods and ways of thinking. And all we can do from here is show them the way to acceptance by accepting them, as well.

And so I leave you with one final point: Though I’m sure you’ve heard it time and time again, if you’re not happy with the results and you DIDN’T vote, well then….shame. Because apparently a large number of registered democrats didn’t even bother to show up to the polls, and just because Trump won doesn’t mean his popular vote was any higher than the losing totals received by McCain in ‘08 and Romney in ’12…

I know I said I’ve accepted the results, but still. It’s just something to think about.